At my current ministry, the term relationally engaged is a core value. It is always on my mind. I am constantly evaluating how I am doing with my relationships. Seriously, I am constantly thinking about the people around me. The people in my home, at work, my extended family, my old friends, my new friends, people who need encouragement, etc. I could go on and on. Let me share with you a quote my uncle once shared with me:
“Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.”
I’d encourage you to think about what that quote means regarding relationships. Did you know that being relationally engaged with the people around us is Biblical? Why do you think the Bible discusses the church so much? Our bodies long to be in good, healthy relationships. So, today I thought I’d ask you 3 questions to help you evaluate how you are doing in regards to being relationally engaged. These are broad relationships, they are not specific to dating or mentorship.
On your daily to do list or calendar, do you have specific names written down? If not, why not? Do not say your too busy. Busy isn’t better, it is just a busy mindset. I urge you to prioritize people.
In the past 2-3 days have you encouraged someone? A phone call. A note. A text. Social media comments. Horace Traubel said, “If the world is cold, make it your business to build fires.” If you are struggling to develop meaningful relationships, I would urge you to start with making it your goal to encourage others.
Have you given to someone this week? Again, this is a broad question. Given advice? Given financially? Given time away for someone else? Gift giving is a mark of friendship. Winston Churchill once said, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”
I encourage you today to prioritize people. Make it your goal to encourage someone and give away your time to someone else.